Sexual Tension: Get comfortable with it

Hi Guys,

Oh I love this post! It gets me all excited just imagining what juicy loveliness lies in store for you. If hot women make you go weak at the knees, read on...

• Getting comfortable with sexual tension is something that every guy can do. It is a very attractive quality because it shows your woman that you have self-control and can endure her sexuality without dissolving into an eager pup or needy wuss-bag.
• If, however, she makes your pulse race: plant your feet. Breathe. Enjoy the dynamic; it is a wonderful gift. Know that you are in control and can take it to the next level of intimacy whenever you choose. 
• If you aren't confident taking it to the next level, learn how.
• Look at her in the eyes. Hold her gaze. If you must look away, look to the sides or up.
• Again, enjoy this moment as a gift. Your woman will appreciate you much more for this.
• Plant your feet. Breathe. Feel the electricity buzz and tingle around your body. Stay with it. This interaction might go somewhere, it might go nowhere. It is a dance. It really doesn't matter, the enjoyment is all. 
• Practise: If you haven't already, go visit places that are full of overtly sexual beings, like strip clubs, swinger clubs, tantric gatherings. And... talk to people!
• This is not about you getting turned on and hiding it in shame.
• This is not about you loading yourself with the pressure to pull or get laid.
• This is about opening yourself to being turned on.
• This is about finding your relaxation around beautiful, powerful (and often very persuasive!) erotic beings.
• Imagine how much more confidence you will have.
• On a side note: A woman's body is genetically designed to be sexually enticing for us men. There is no shame in looking - then again, how do you 'look'? 
• With relish, enjoyment and gratitude for that being in front of you? (please say yes) Or, with cravings of ownership and possessiveness? With memories of jealousy, envy, betrayal, or revenge? 
• Own your shit first. And then enjoy. Because you can.

Be your best,

D.L.

"Very good news for wankers everywhere..! -
Dr. Deborah Anapol, author The Seven
Natural Laws of Love

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.