What is intimacy?

For you

• A quick glance on Wikipedia reveals that, "genuine intimacy in human relationships requires dialogue, transparency, vulnerability, and reciprocity. "
• "To sustain intimacy for any length of time requires well-developed emotional and interpersonal awareness."
• Essentially, intimacy is a relationship that is robust enough to withstand a huge emotional range from conflict to intense loyalty. From that comes a sense of connection and communion.
• If we are not feeling, we are not intimate. 
• If we cannot express those feelings in a way that does no harm to ourselves,  anyone or anything, we are not intimate.
• If we cannot be intimate, how can we relate? How can we understand what connects us all?
• If you don't know intimacy, how can you be intimate with another?
• If you have read any of my other posts you'll know that it gives my own insights into how to live an intimate life. It starts with you.
• One of my teachers gave me this description a while back and I love it:
• Intimacy = 'Into-Me-See'
• Take the risk. Be seen. Be surprised. Find love. Change the world.

Be your best,

D.L.

"Brilliant" - Dr. Joseph Kramer

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.

Why we need orgasms

For you

• Posted by one of my teachers.
• Starts off addressing women, then you men.
• Read the whole thing.
• It's the way to the new paradigm.
• why we need orgasms.
• For more on 'Orgasms', see my post: amazing full body orgasm tip: exploding colours

"Brilliant" - Dr Joseph Kramer

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.

What it means to 'man-up'

For you

• Watch this short video and reflect on where you are at.
• Anything familiar?
• Help is available and you are not the only one.
• The Mask you Live In
• For more on 'Healthy masculine' see: Number one tip for the Healthy Masculine.

Be your best,
D.L.

"Good news for wankers everywhere..!"
- Dr. Deborah Anapol, author,
The Seven Natural Laws of Love

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.

What women want in a man.

Kali!

For you, women and the planet

• (Sounds dramatic doesn't it? Yes, intimacy really does extend to the planet, maybe further).

• Now, what do women want? Or should I say, what can we guys prepare ourselves for as both sexes step more into their power?
• KALI!
• 'Kali' is one of the female gods in Hinduism. Think of her as 'the destroyer of bullshit'. Both women and men have her qualities inside. 
• If you've ever seen a woman in childbirth swear her head off, and tell you to stop fucking about, this is the Kali power. The same is possible in a deep orgasm.
• Kali is to be feared only if you are not solid in your masculine presence (which is why I emphasize it so much). Kali will, metaphorically, cut your head off if you bullshit her.
• So, what do women (and men) want? They want someone who can handle their Kali energy. They want to feel safe enough to let her go, to let her come out and express herself. 
• Most women (and men) live with a feeling of some great untouched power inside themselves; secretly telling themselves the story that 'people can't handle me', or carrying the fear of 'losing themselves; becoming overwhelmed'. This is an unhealthy attitude to Kali energy. 
• Kali energy is very empowering.
• Kali energy is to be honored and respected.
• Kali energy comes from feeling safe and supported by the masculine (not, necessarily, the male, because they are different). 
• Kali is compassion.
• Kali energy is connected to, and can be safely explored during, orgasm.
• If your woman can go to and express her Kali energy with you (and vice-versa) this is a wonderful, deeply intimate expression of love. Allow it. It is not a personal attack.
• If she doesn't, be sure part of her wants to. Make deep intimacy your commitment.
• Note: Men be prepared. Do the work on yourself; know your healthy masculine and feminine. Globally, more and more women are stepping into their power. They are remembering their Kali power and she knows what you have done to her. The injustices that mankind has inflicted on women over millenia is being exposed and destroyed. You have a responsibility and a history with that. Be prepared to take her attack, and give your head willingly if you have stepped out of your power. See her. Hear her. Know your weaknesses and resolve to make them better. 
• And breathe!
• For more on 'Masculine and Feminine', see: An image of the Masculine & Feminine

Be your best,
D.L.

"Brilliant" - Dr. Joseph Kramer

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.

How to extend your orgasm: implode

How to extend your orgasm: implode

For you, and your partner(s)

• First, guys, know that orgasm and ejaculation are not the same thing. 
• For most guys they go together, but you can, and I dare say, should, learn to separate the two if you want to really go deep into your intimacy.
• If you do currently ejaculate when you orgasm, think of this as the erotic energy inside your body exploding out. 
• Now, to extend your orgasm (and delay your ejaculation, thereby multiplying the number of orgasms you can have), you want that erotic energy to implode inside.
• How to do that? RELAX. Simple.
• Let that erotic energy build up inside you, then just before you reach 'the point of no return', stop what you are doing and slowly, gently relax your muscles, particularly your butt and pc ones.
• Allow any tremors that happen in your body. This is the erotic implosion that you want. Suck your breath in like a straw and let it go on the exhale to shift that energy around your body.
• Enjoy this practice ;-)
• For more on 'Orgasm', see my post: amazing full-body orgasm tip: exploding colours

Be your best,
D.L.

"Good news for wankers everywhere..!"
- Dr. Deborah Anapol,  author The Seven Natural Laws of Love

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author of "W@nker!": a practical guide for men to enhanced erotic practice and superior pleasure. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men. To enjoy more of Diamond's insights and guidance, like, comment and share intimacytipsforyoungstraightmen.

Top masturbation tip: mindful practice

Hi Guys,

Every now and then I stumble upon an intimacy approach that really floats my boat. Well, 'mindful practice' is just such a one. So much so, that it is the basis of my book, lovingly titled: "W@nker!". I hope you enjoy both; this one is for you, and your cock ;-)

• Every cell in your body has the capacity for orgasm - fact!
• The more intimate with yourself you can learn to be, the better at intimacy with a woman you will be. Another fact! 
• Just because it feels good at the end of your cock, doesn't mean you have to keep all your attention there.
• Like the Buddhist practice of 'mindfulness' - meaning paying attention to every detail from moment to moment - the way you masturbate can be exactly like a meditation; only more profound!
• Focus on the way you breathe. Experiment with different ways; long, short, mouth, nose. Notice if you feel more aroused. Notice what feels good and allow it.
• Imagine your arousal as a ball of energy that you can move around your body. Move it. Sweep your hands across your body to help.
• Learn your patterns: mental as well as physical. Do you tense? Do you stop breathing? Work towards the opposite.
• Touch more than your cock and balls! Gently brush your anus. Gently brush your nipples. Slap your ass. Squeeze your pecs. Get involved and learn what turns you on.
• Take your time. Set an alarm. This is dedicated time for deepening your intimate capacity.

Be your best,

D.L.

• PS For more on 'Masturbation', see my post: Guilt & Curiosity.

"Very good news for wankers everywhere..! -
Dr. Deborah Anapol, author The Seven
Natural Laws of Love

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.

How to live with vulnerability: a video

For you

• Men, to get the life you want, vulnerability is the only way to go.
• Brace yourself and watch this the whole way through. 
• Brene Brown on vulnerability
• "You are worthy!"
• For more on 'vulnerability', see my post: No1. intimacy tip to change world

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author of "W@nker!": a practical guide for men to enhanced erotic practice and superior pleasure. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men. To enjoy more of Diamond's insights and guidance, like, comment and share intimacytipsforyoungstraightmen.

What is the inner masculine and feminine?: an image

For you

For more on 'masculine and feminine' see: http://intimacytipsforyoungstraightmen.blogspot.com/2014/02/number-one-tip-for-healthy-masculine.html

Diamond Lotus is as a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author of "W@nker!": a practical guide for men to enhanced erotic practice and superior pleasure. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men. To enjoy more of Diamond's insights and guidance, like, comment and share intimacytipsforyoungstraightmen.

Erotic practice: a video

For you

• How do you think about sex?
• How do you masturbate?
• Your erotic practice is important.
• Watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgd3m-x46JU
• Play and enjoy.

Be your best,

D.L.

• PS For an erotic practice of 'deep intimacy', see my post: deep intimacy as healing tool.

"Brilliant" - Dr. Joseph Kramer

Diamond Lotus is as a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.