Masturbation: a challenge

Hi Guys,

Wow, first of all I've got to say "Thank you", because this is by far and away my most popular post. It makes me very proud to know that there are guys like you who are interested (and dedicated) enough to want better for their well-being and self-loving practice.

Maybe that's why I chose to focus on Mindful Masturbation in my first book..?

Cheers to you (and your drowsy head!). Now, on with the post.

• Here's the thing: guys masturbate. A lot. 
• What's more, they usually EJACULATE. A lot. 
• (And why wouldn't they when that's what porn shows them to do to 'finish off', right?)

• I've mentioned before that ejaculation and orgasm are separate possibilities, but let's focus on the cumming for a moment.
• You might know that each ejaculation releases a mix of chemicals in your brain, including: a spike of dopamine to give you that 'addictive high', oxytocin to help you bond with 'another' and give you that 'in love' feeling and serotonin, the 'calming, satisfaction' hormone. 
• (Of course, the last two aren't really acknowledged for lots of guys; they just focus on 'getting off' with that spike...I know there's more to you than that!)

• What you might not know is how long it takes for those chemicals to resettle back to normal afterwards. 
• I'm NOT talking 'The Refractory Period' here - the time it takes before you can 'go again'.
• What would your guess be? One day? Two days? A Week?
• Here's the news: It takes about 20 days! 
• That's right, 20 days before you get rid of your post-cum hangover!
• Next question: how long since you started to ejaculate have you been hangover-free??!!
• I know! No wonder most of the male population is so out of touch with themselves.
• So here's the challenge: Stay ejaculation-free for 21-days. 
• That doesn't mean no sex or masturbation. In fact, I'd encourage you to move your sexual energy every day. Just...no cum. 
• And if you do...start again.
• From my own experience of doing this, notice what happens around day 3/4, day 11/12 and, especially, day 17/18... you're in for a treat!
• I look forward to your feedback.

Be your best,
D.L.

Liked this article? Why not take my Pornography challenge too!

• PS For more on 'Masturbation' see my other post: how-to-get-bigger-cock-without-drugs.
• PPS Alternatively, here's the link to my book, W@nker!": a practical guide for men to enhanced erotic practice and superior pleasure, once again. In it I give you another masturbation challenge, only this time it's 30-days' worth. But, don't worry the book is written in a step-by-step way to make the absolute most of your masturbation practice. Enjoy!

"Good news for wankers everywhere..!"
- Dr. Deborah Anapol, author,
The Seven Natural Laws of Love

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.

How to get a bigger cock - without drugs, pills or dodgy herbs.

How to get a bigger cock - without drugs, pills or dodgy herbs.

For you (and your best friend) ;-)

• I'm serious, this is possible. Forget all that money-making medicinal bollocks.
• What makes your cock grow? Blood. Increase the blood flow to your genitals and - quelle surprise! - you have a bigger dick. This much we know. 
• Unfortunately, many guys have so much constriction going on in and around their genital and pelvic area - genetic conditioning, societal conditioning, interrupted child development, poor health, poor diet, guilt, SHAME, etc, and etc - poor old John Thomas is left a little thirsty.
• There is of course lots of things you can do to help deal with any and all of those above-mentioned things, but that's not why you are reading this is it?
• So, want a bigger cock? The answer is simple: GENITAL and PELVIC MASSAGE. Regularly.
• Although it feels great to have this done by a professional, if that thought is not yet appealing, worry not, you can do it yourself. 
• Next time you pleasure yourself (I hope you are already using oil or some other lubrication), spend time gently massaging the following areas:
• your pubic bone
• around the base of your cock (you should feel the connective tissues there)
• along the insides of your thighs 
• and, yes, very importantly, around your asshole (the pelvic floor muscles converge around there like a whirlpool, so give them a hand easing off).
• I suggest exploring this every time you masturbate (thus, on a 'regular' basis ;-))
• This will get your body used to being relaxed 'down there' and will increase the blood flow. Result? More pleasure, and, yes, BIGGER COCK. 
• I'd love to know how you get on. 
• For more on 'Masturbation' see my post: masturbation: guilt and curiosity.

Yours,

D.L.

"Good news for wankers everywhere..!"
- Dr. Deborah Anapol, author,
The Seven Natural Laws of Love

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.

The best reason to play with your asshole: Yin &Yang

Hi Guys, this one is for you (and your pleasure-seeking bottom!)

• Think for a moment, why do you masturbate? 
• What is it that encourages you to entertain the idea of grabbing your cock for pleasure?
• In times of comfort, need, separation, and unrest, the yang cock can be an attractive draw, because masturbation/ self-touch here can bring about a momentary sense of connection.
• A feeling of connection. That's what it's about really, isn't it?
• So to deepen and extend this sensation, to be able to carry this sensation with you rather than squirt it out at the moment of ejaculation, I suggest what is needed is a gentle and sensitive touch and a finger inside the more nurturing yin anus.
• Here there is more opportunity for you to open up - literally and metaphysically - to your chaotic existence/ experience, and to find peace and relaxation within it.
• Touch and stimulation on your yang-penis ought to be a wholly secondary sensation to those in your asshole at such times; a means to increase the mutual pleasure of the two organs combined. 
• Not as a counter-charge that fills the body with 'false' chemicals which dissipate after ejaculation.
• A finger in the bum is also a great way to delay ejaculation, as the necessary clenching of muscles does not fully occur.
• Practise gently. Savour. Enjoy.
• For more on 'Anal Play' see:  anal-play-for-self-love.

Be your best,

D.L.

"Very good news for wankers everywhere..! -
Dr. Deborah Anapol, author The Seven
Natural Laws of Love

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.

Masturbation: Guilt and Curiosity

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