How to touch a woman: outside-in

Hi Guys,

In case you didn't know, people love to be touched. In fact, to not be touched can feel like a death of sorts. Did you know there were studies done in which babies were denied touch? Yep, and do you know what happened to those particular babies? They died!

So this is serious stuff, guys. However, when it comes to arousing touch, men and women do things a little differently. So, if you want to avoid a little touchy-feely confusion and maximise your hand-job (!), read on:

• Most guys know that it takes a woman longer to reach peak arousal and climax than it does a guy. Ideally, think of it as a beautiful mountain walk together; at the top is a view and a feeling well worth the effort. 
• So guys, how do you make the walk together and not stumble around in the brambles?
• The energy in a woman's body moves differently to yours. Ignore what porn shows you, i.e. straight to the breasts and a frantic grab and rub of the clitoris. That's the way your energy works (so, tell your woman to reverse what I say here to really get you going!)

• Here's how: 

• Start at the edges of her body: fingers, toes, ears, face, hair, arms, legs. Take it slow. Notice how she responds to your touch. Notice which parts of her body twitch or move or otherwise invite you to touch or caress her there. Follow her lead.
• If you aren't sure, ASK!
• Her energy moves from the outside-in. That means, her genitals will be the last things that get touched. Build slowly. Resist your desire to go straight for her breasts or vulva. Relish what that delayed gratification does for you.
• Enjoy.
• Note: Like I said, guys, ask her to start at your genitals and sweep her hands across your body to move the energy inside-out and notice how good it feels. Remember, most of us touch the way we like to be touched. There are other ways.  
• For more on 'Touch' see my post: 4 ways to touch a woman.

Be your best,
D.L.

"Very good news for wankers everywhere..! -
Dr. Deborah Anapol, author The Seven
Natural Laws of Love

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.