How to use Deep Intimacy as a healing tool: Sexual-Energetic Transformation

Hi Guys,

You know, this is my first ever post on this blog. I hope you like it, because it is powerful stuff!

This is best done with a partner you are comfortable with and trust. Ejaculatory choice is an essential skill to have mastered if you want the most benefit from this ritual of Sex Magick.

I'm going to assume that you do, so here goes:

• With your arousal working at 70-75%; if 'the point of no return' is 80-85%:
• Delay ejaculation. By 3rd or 4th time of building energy to climax, the energy will begin to shift and charge as the desire to go for ejaculation is controlled and placed in the background of the encounter.
• Bring whatever images, fantasies, memories that occur into the foreground and use the penetrative action and ejaculatory choice combination to 'metaphysically (re)enact' whatever is occurring.
• You stay heart connected and aware of your partner.
• Here they are of service to you, just as you are for them. If well connected, this process is a mutual exchange.
• Quieten the ego and/or judgments - whatever you are doing is not real, but allowing it to be present and transform can make it seem so.
• We do not ejaculate and send that charge into our partner. It is highly charged with transforming matter. It is not fair.
• Use sound.
• And use breath. These are vitally important if things are to transform.
• You may laugh, you may cry, you may howl, you may shout and scream, you may swear. This is to be allowed and is not a personal attack on you, your partner, or anybody else.
• Stay present to what is happening. The more you can, the deeper the charge and the stronger the connection grows. This applies to both partners equally. It is a necessary responsibility. If you struggle to stay present, learn how.
• Allow both peaks and troughs in the exchange. Stay with it, stay connected as the emotional storm blows over. Breathe. Look into your partner's eyes; notice what you see and express your gratitude for their service. 
• You are born again and brand new. Well done.

Be your best,

D.L.

• PS For more on 'Conscious Relating', see oral skills for sexual expression.

"Brilliant" - Dr. Joseph Kramer

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer and educator. Currently training as a teacher of Pelvic-Heart Integration, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.