What ISIS can teach us about sex and human nature.

Okay, not to get political on you, but this came to me at the end of last year, when we all needed a bit of hope...

The fact that there exists regimes, movements and organizations that appear to deal in evil, shadow and darkness is proof that there is also an expanding movement of lightworkers dealing in awareness, life and love. Nature lives in balance so there cannot be one without the other.

Alongside this, is the fact that we too can exist in all of those polarities, if even for just a split-second each day. These polarities may expand to become a way of life, and for many they do, but to suggest that those who choose these extreme paths can be eradicated or promoted is naïve – we are all of these movements, for better or worse; at any given moment we are drawn to and/or repelled from either of them. The practice is to be aware and tread the Middle Way; with permission to exist in either extreme momentarily, with consciousness, with awareness, and consideration of the impact of such swings of movement.

Eventually, the pendulum rests in the Middle. Each impulse sets it in motion first one way, then the other. But rest, availability, and potential are always in the Middle-Centre.

The Pleasure Focus

Whether you are solo or with a partner(s), I encourage you to explore this mindset. I know for a lot of us, “giving pleasure” is the first thing on our minds, and knowing whether our efforts are effective can be a source of anxiety for a lot of us (that’s another post right there!). However, for those of us who have progressed a little and discovered how the body often hangs onto stuff that gets in the way of experiencing pleasure, clearing this in itself can become an obstacle.

…There I was, lying in the bath exploring my body and, like Archimedes, I had a “Eureka!” moment:  what if my point of focus was all wrong…?

You see, as a bodyworker and empath, I’m used to searching out and sensing sore points in the body that hold some kind of unwanted emotional charge; a past trauma, stuck emotions or a repressed experience, that sort of thing. Naturally, I do the same thing when I’m exploring myself. However, what I realized there as I lay in the bath, was that if I was only ever hunting for this kind of discomfort-release, then I was missing a vital part of my experience: pleasure.