Ten ways to experience erotic bliss that isn't just sitting, fondling one's genitals.

Hi Guys,

The other day I found myself having a nosey at one of those webcam sites, as you do, and I noticed that most of the guys on there were getting their rocks off in a merely prolonged, passive kind of way. This was, sadly, to be expected. If you've read my book, you'll know that I refer to this as the good 'ol "passive wank". It's the Level 1 of erotic bliss, and many of us never get beyond it.

Now, I know that we guys are heavily visual when it comes to building and enjoying our sexual arousal, and these sorts of sites exploit know that too. I dare say, they even emphasise it, because the longer we sit and click, the more dopamine is released into the system and the more we get addicted to whatever it is we are staring at, and keep doing it. It's a simple, primal cycle. But, it isn't the only way.

So, here are ten ways to build and enjoy your erotic bliss that you can experiment with alongside your  passive wanking, or, even better, instead of.

1. Eye contact, eye gazing. If you don't have a partner, use a mirror.
2. Dirty talk & affirmations. Again, if you don't have a partner, do this to yourself in the mirror. It's powerful.
3. Experiment with breath patterns. Short and long, fast and slow, mouth and nose.

Owning Your Shit #2: "I Hate Women"

“The term Nice Guy is actually a misnomer because Nice Guys are often anything but nice.” – Robert Glover, PhD

Hi Guys,

You know I want to share something with you now that I think might not be the most expected thing to come out of my mouth on a blog about intimacy tips for young, straight men. But here it is: I hate women.

Shocking isn’t it? I don’t know how this has come about, but the realization came to me in a flash and I know there is truth in the statement. And you know what? It feels good to admit it. I am relieved to know this about myself. It feels good to understand how disingenuous my actions have been. I no longer need to feel the pangs of rejection and guilt about offering help, support, advice, love, sex, being present, etc. These things I have aspired to master in the past – for the betterment of myself and for the purposes of getting laid (well), I’ll admit – and yet underneath it all I’ve been struggling with this women-hating conflict. Am I alone in feeling this?

Most of us guys don’t know this about ourselves I am sure. If we do, would we dare admit it? And to who?