Hi Guys,
The other day I found myself having a nosey at one of those webcam sites, as you do, and I noticed that most of the guys on there were getting their rocks off in a merely prolonged, passive kind of way. This was, sadly, to be expected. If you've read my book, you'll know that I refer to this as the good 'ol "passive wank". It's the Level 1 of erotic bliss, and many of us never get beyond it.
Now, I know that we guys are heavily visual when it comes to building and enjoying our sexual arousal, and these sorts of sites exploit know that too. I dare say, they even emphasise it, because the longer we sit and click, the more dopamine is released into the system and the more we get addicted to whatever it is we are staring at, and keep doing it. It's a simple, primal cycle. But, it isn't the only way.
So, here are ten ways to build and enjoy your erotic bliss that you can experiment with alongside your passive wanking, or, even better, instead of.
- Eye contact, eye gazing. If you don't have a partner, use a mirror.
- Dirty talk & affirmations. Again, if you don't have a partner, do this to yourself in the mirror. It's powerful.
- Experiment with breath patterns. Short and long, fast and slow, mouth and nose.
- Body massage. Press, squeeze, rub and roll your whole body.
- Standing and shaking.
- Stretching and dance. Put on some music and get down for the length of the track.
- Use of fabrics and materials. Stroke them over your body. Stroke your body over them!
- Use of restraints, gags. Be careful with these, but why not restrict your hands away from your genitals? What would you do then?
- Aerobic exercise. Get that oxygen flowing. More oxygen = more bliss.
- Laugh. Big belly laughs. Gets the oxygen flowing and uses similar muscles too.
- Change positions - stand, kneel, get on all fours.
- Read erotic literature - boost your visual habit with some some imagination.
Be Your Best,
D.L.
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Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. As a Pelvic-Heart Integration facilitator, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.
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