Hi Guys,
In this amazing online world that we live in, I wonder how much of this story applies to you? How many of us live as the Blind Man, either intentionally or not? How many of us have become so invested in the Mirage that real intimacy evades us? I for one have been experiencing this in recent weeks, so I felt obliged to write about it for you. Here's the story of The Blind Man and the Mirage...
The Blind Man sees only 50% of the
population; the women and girls. He is blind to the men. They are invisible to
him, except when they get in the way of the female he is attracted to. I'm convinced most of
us guys live like this. Why? Because we are invested in the Mirage.
The Mirage is the simulated, cyber-produced
female that we have been loving, longing, yearning and wanking over. She sells intimacy to us through a
screen and we are triggered in just the right places, and in just the right
amounts. We sell ourselves, we part with cash, we dream of being with her, we
even begin interactions that have positive outcomes. We are catapulted into a
fantasy life that presents as reality, but is limited in that most vital
aspect: physical reality.
I am not aroused by her smell. Her quirks and qualms are not part of our conversation. I do not get her
essence, her vibration. All the things I naturally value.
I am starved of touch, that most
basic staple of intimacy. Even eye contact is artificial. Instead I am hooked time and time again by my
dopamine-firing, visually hyper-stimulated mind. I believe she is mine, and she is, but only while I am
logged on and parting with cash.
Consequently, my reality becomes this online world. I struggle to ascertain normal human behavior, and real intimacy begins to feel artificial and uncomfortable. I become a sociopath of sorts. Women remain objectified as sexy, dirty, functional
playthings. Men remain invisible.
...Thankfully, I know there is a way out of this. Thankfully, I have the opportunity again to re-train these awkwardly acquired habits. It's time to go back to the 30-days of Mindful Masturbation Meditation that I advocate in my book, "W@nker!". It's gonna be a new and different journey, and I imagine not such a pleasing one in the beginning. BUT, I'll keep you posted on my progress.
If you've already read the book, why not join me in the 30-days now? I will begin on Monday 25th July 2016.
Be Your Best,
D.L.
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Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. A Pelvic-Heart Integration facilitator, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.
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