Ten ways to put the fun in self-pleasuring back into your life.

Hi Guys,

Spring is here and the weather is getting warmer. Finally.

If you have found - like me - the cold weather of winter slips you back into old masturbatory habits, then here are my suggestions for adding a gentle spark into your erotic practice. A lot of these appear in instructive detail in my book, but in case you haven't yet bought it, here are some things to get you started:

1.     Buy a mirror

2.     Set a routine for the morning

3.     Use a timer

4.     Use or give affirmations to yourself as you do it

5.     Bring in or invite a friend to witness you

6.     Try out different oils

7.     Use toys

8.     Write a reflective report on each session, as you go

9.     Record yourself in session and watch it back

10.  Set an intention for it to be fun and fulfilling

Not quite the same as, "lie down in the dark with the covers over you" or "sit at the desk and flip open the laptop" is it? It has it's purpose I guess, but remember, I believe that self-pleasuring should be a cause for celebration and self-renewal. So why not accept the fact that you are doing it and make it life-enhancing? The list above, if you are brave enough, is a way to do that.

Be your best,

D.L.

"Very good news for wankers everywhere..! -
Dr. Deborah Anapol, author The SevenNatural Laws of Love

Diamond Lotus is a sex-positive erotic explorer, educator, and author. As a Pelvic-Heart Integration facilitator, Diamond is passionate about promoting healthy models of intimate relating for young, straight men.